Is a Man’s “OldLoveLanguage” obsolete in today’s world of relationships?

It’s Monday September 8th 2025, while sitting at Walmart waiting on my tire flat repair to be done, I’m asking myself this very same question as I write this post. Is the old traditional way of showing love and appreciation towards your love one completely dead and forgotten ? Are you someone who believes that perhaps by washing your partners car and detailing it you like to show love. Is this your type of love language and you are completely clueless about it and don’t even realize it. Are you constantly doing things like, mowing the lawn or cleaning up the dog crap off the yard and think to yourself ? She’s gotta know I love her after this. Do you often ask yourself; How can they think I do nothing for them when you find yourself doing so much for them regularly ? Maybe it’s not you. Maybe the world, and the times we currently live in and maybe the way love is now perceived have completely disconnected the “Old way of showing love and or appreciation towards your partner” at least in the way I remember it. Maybe I’m just getting old at 46. Some people will argue and say, well none of those things sound like, “anything any woman cares for”.

What about vacations and expensive gifts ? What about lavish dinners ? And priceless jewelry? Doesn’t the more expensive the gift, mean the more you love the person ? Are men wasting their time trying to do so much of the little insignificant things for their partner that they burn themselves out in doing so and end up feeling as if their efforts were insufficient? I’m Not for nor against either way of approaching the way and manner in which each individual person wants to show love, respect and appreciation towards their partner and this post DOES NOT by any means reflects any one particular way of thinking. I am literally writing this because it’s something I’ve personally have pondered on myself, I guess asking myself in disbelief how the illusion of a person being another’s knight in shining armor has completely whithered away to the point of non existence has me in a bit of shock and awe. What do you guys think ? Is the idea of changing a tire or pumping gas not glamorous enough to show love anymore ? Is the, “let me help you with that” approach prehistoric? Hopefully they finish up with my tire soon !!

Sincerely

Rare Mind